I smiled the other day as what he said popped into my head. This after massaging a couple of clients where deeper realizations were experienced on both our parts. These weren’t realizations that could be taught from a book or from a teacher in front of the room, it was these kind of realizations the massage director knew would come to us after years of dedicated massage practice.
Organic, raw realizations of being so present that you experience deeper universal truths of how amazing our mind/body truly is.
As I sunk my elbow deeper into my clients back muscles there was a point where my pressure could go no further. An internal resistance, which as a novice massage therapist years ago would have had me try harder and massage harder, many times hurting my own body. All while feeling how no difference had been made with my clients tight muscles.
When I met this resistance recently in a client, I do what I always do. I slowed down more and backed off in my pressure just a bit. This to give the muscles a little energetic message that it was ok to let go and relax. Sometimes in these cases the muscles are so wound up from internal stress, they do not let go and will not let go no matter how hard a massage therapist presses. I promise.
In this case as I let up in my pressure, then the client himself realized he was not letting go internally. He internally felt how it was his mind that was affecting his muscles being tight. I was so happy for him that I let out a happy giggle. A joy for me to witness. He could feel that deeply in himself and his own internal awareness/resistance. He knew his resistance to his own relaxation was why his muscles were deeply tight. A beautiful moment for both of us. He said he had never experienced his internal awareness like that before. Then I knew it would set the stage for him to really begin his healing process of awakening to deeper relaxation in himself.
The other amazing realization actually came when working on another client doing deep tissue massage at my Redding massage studio. As I met his resistance I let up a little again. I asked him to be aware of what his breath was doing which is always a good thing to do with any type of massage. As I started to explain a little more about breath linking to internal resistance, I made the utter connection that if we can be aware of our breath as a conscious vibrating energy(and it is), that breath work can be like giving ourselves an internal deep tissue massage & deep inner yoga stretch at once. All from the inside out. Our energy gets bound up inside just like our muscles get bound up outside. Plus it is all connected as one. Breath is a bridge linking both. As I said it will not matter how deep I massage tight muscles. When we have inner bindings and stress in our soul and are not aware of it our muscles stay chronically tight and tense. We can learn to consciously let it go > If we don't we coil right back up to being tight.
As I made this realization during the massage, the client was also experiencing it internally while I was explaining it to him. In combination together he used his breath to give himself the internal unwinding while I was doing the external unwinding with my hands. During which I was realizing how much I love what I do and am truly blessed. Then I realized it was exactly those beautiful moments of synchronistic, conscious connection that my massage director was talking about. I smiled in deep gratitude for the gift of wisdom he gave us all.